Oh look! An ask meme with questions I can answer!
Hit me with sticks if you see me on tumblr ever again.
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Leaving tumblr again
Strongly considering not coming back
[trigger warning: prescriptivism, sexual abuse] This is a post for the non-broken people.
Yea, you know who you are. The do-gooders, the ones slavering at the mouths to help us poor helpless, pathetic beings.
Here’s the problem: in your haste to help, you end up hurting us. More often than not, you’re harming us. And if you’re not harming us, you’re certainly not helping. You don’t understand the situation, and waltzing in like you do only means we’re in firing range.
Like whoever called the cops on Toranse - fuck you. Fuck you fuck you fuck you, Toranse had to delete their tumblr, and y’know, tumblr was one of the only good things going for them. Nice. Fucking. Job.
“Compassion” alerts, stalking people so you can call the cops on them, sending messages then guilt trip and trigger us into oblivion if we don’t response in what you view as an appropriate manner - this is all behaviour I’ve seen. If we don’t act how you want us to act, then we’re not even people anymore.
Us poor broken people.
Fuck you. Start fucking treating us like people, people with self-supremacy and self-awareness.
Removing the ability to consent from people who are traumatized because their wishes and feelings were ignored…totally gonna help.
If a survivor says they dont need your help you absolutely must stop. Because continuing means violating their right to self-agency. It means forcing them into the same kinds of situations they have been through.
And also, you cannot tell who is or who is not a survivor. So this applies to everyone. If you are not like, that person’s best friend and you’re just a total stranger trying to “help”, stop. In fact, you should ask people if they want “help” first before even doing anything.
Anon makes an interesting point.
This is the internet and it is a public medium, and we have a habit of treating everything as an open forum even if it was meant to have a small public audience.
Offline we might be in a park and hear a small group of people discussing a subject, but we would not approach them and interrupt that conversation, even though that is an equally public forum, by way of being audible to the people passing by. Just like a blog post is visible to any people who pass by, but weren’t invited into the conversation.
Internet culture has grown so that this is acceptable to comment on nearly anything public without being in poor etiquette. There is not doctrine telling anyone to adhere to this particular culture or way of thinking, however. We don’t do this to people in person; why do we feel the uncontrollable need to do criticize and challenge people online?
sometimes I feel like the line between self-care and self-destruction is really thin and blurry
i say as I groggily awake from a day-time nap
I couldn’t agree with this more.
Sometimes I just don’t know if I am copping out and refusing to deal with something, or if I am taking care of myself. When do I need to push myself a bit harder, and when do I need to take it easy?
all of these questions for real.
Why isn’t there a handbook for life, that answers these questions?
Allll of this. Another thing that happens to me, from my mom especially, is noticing I’m distressed and then saying it’s okay for me to do nothing, when in fact I want to get things done but they’re obstructing my way. It’s using the rhetoric of self-care to immobilize when what I need is clearer instructions or less distraction or other accessibility things.
sibylsillysuperiority asked: ☁♧☆♣
☁ = Tumblr crush.
Aaaaa but I have so many. Um, perhaps metapianycist at the moment?
♧ = Hot or cold. Hot! Always hot. Hot summers and hot food and hot drinks.
☆ = Favorite food. Pan-fried salmon in awesome tomatoey sauce topped with avocado relish Secondarily, the entire category of dessert.
♣ = Lucky number. 12! It’s a composite and highly composite and abundant and superabundant and sublime and semiperfect number, and it’s the kissing number in three dimensions, and well because so many people have recognized the awesomeness of 12 it shows up alllll over the place as a number of significance, so I’m betting it’s pretty lucky!
○ = Your name.
☺= One phobia.
♬ = Favorite song.
§ = How do you feel?
☁ = Tumblr crush.
♠ = First person to follow you on tumblr.
♧ = Hot or cold.
☆ = Favorite food.
☮= Your inspiration.
☼ = Your first URL.
☻= Are you happy right now?
Þ = Favorite film.
♣ = Lucky number.
ϟ = The song you are listening to right now is…
✖ = Make me choose:
Singer: ________ or ___________?
Book: ________ or ___________?
Character: ________ or ___________?
take heed.
(May sell prints of this soon… And open picture in new tab to view larger)
This looks like it could be useful, except - when you eliminate tap water, bottled water, and water that’s already been boiled, what water sources are left? Are you supposed to go to a stream and collect water and iodize it or something?
This is great! However I would quibble or expand on the following points:
- I have really really tasty tap water where I’m living right now, so that’s what I always use - I don’t see how oxygen is so important.
- Oolong tea should also be brewed at close to boiling temperatures, though lighter oolongs such as kwan yin may prefer 90° C. Green should be at 80° C, white at 70°.
- I always use one pot for steeping and a second pot for holding; I rarely use more than one cup at once.
- Bagged, herbal tea in fine particles is just fine. With “tea” tea of the Camellia sinensis plant, it is very important to have whole, unbroken leaves! Finer particles release too much bitterness too quickly; higher grades are much smoother and more flavorful. I would say that good leaves are more important than being terribly precise about your brewing method.
- For black tea, I use a slightly heaped teaspoon for every 6 oz. or 2/3rds of a cup. For oolong and green teas, I use closer to one slightly heaped teaspoon per 10 oz.
- I would never brew a black tea for more than 4 minutes, except perhaps for chai. Green and oolongs I brew for a minute and a half. For herbal tea, I leave the bag in for ten minutes or more.
(also! if you use KDE you should check out the “tea cooker” applet! It lets you set and name teas and their steeping times and gives you a little popup notification when the timer is up.)
And now you have an awesome cuppa tea.
Collection of free education resources?
I’ve been going through Khan Academy’s “finance” section over the past few days; there’s also MIT Open Course Ware. If other people could reblog and contribute links to books, videos, exercises, etc. for any level of education, that would be great! I would also be interested in setting up a community or something to help each other out with things you can’t get from videos, such as evaluating writing, or to point people to the right resources for where they are. (For instance, I’ve done about half of high school geometry, but I can’t tell what Khan Academy videos are right for where I’m at.)
So yes, please signal boost!
After a bit more searching:
Education resources
Khan Academy
Free GED Prep
(Free) Online High School Courses | Hoagies’ Gifted
TED-Ed | Lessons Worth Sharing
Annenberg Learner
Academic Earth | Online Courses | Academic Video Lectures
Open Learning Initiative
Free-Ed.Net
Wikiversity
Whatcom Community College :: Online Math Center
OCW Consortium
LearningSpace - The Open University
Apple - iTunes U - Learn anything, anywhere, anytime.
Sofia Project
OpenUW Free Courses
All posts in Berkeley Video Courses category.
Princeton University: WebMedia - Lectures
Past lectures | Gresham College
webcast.berkeley | UC Berkeley Video and Podcasts for Courses & Events
free music lessons, mp3, quicktime and pdf files download
Free online textbooks, videos, tutorials, lecture notes,
The Online Books Page
TextbookRevolution
Untitled Document
A First Course in Linear Algebra (A Free Textbook)But I haven’t verified the usefulness of these - also, almost all of this is college-level, more K-12 resources would be especially helpful.
Further updates, ordered approximately by level (K-12, mixed, college, textbooks/misc. resources is the order I used)
Collection of free education resources?
I’ve been going through Khan Academy’s “finance” section over the past few days; there’s also MIT Open Course Ware. If other people could reblog and contribute links to books, videos, exercises, etc. for any level of education, that would be great! I would also be interested in setting up a community or something to help each other out with things you can’t get from videos, such as evaluating writing, or to point people to the right resources for where they are. (For instance, I’ve done about half of high school geometry, but I can’t tell what Khan Academy videos are right for where I’m at.)
So yes, please signal boost!
After a bit more searching:
Free Online Course Materials | MIT OpenCourseWare
Khan Academy
Past lectures | Gresham College
Open Learning Initiative
webcast.berkeley | UC Berkeley Video and Podcasts for Courses & Events
Stanford on iTunes U
Index - Tufts OpenCourseWare
LearningSpace - The Open University
OpenCourseWare at the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health
TED-Ed | Lessons Worth Sharing
OpenUW Free Courses
Annenberg Learner
Whatcom Community College :: Online Math Center
A First Course in Linear Algebra (A Free Textbook)
Free online textbooks, videos, tutorials, lecture notes,
Sofia Project
The Online Books Page
Princeton University: WebMedia - Lectures
Untitled Document
But I haven’t verified the usefulness of these - also, almost all of this is college-level, more K-12 resources would be especially helpful.
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